Physical
The use of physical force in a way that injures or endangers someone. Those who are physically abused are at higher risk of being seriously injured or killed.
Understanding domestic violence
It is still taboo. That is the problem.
Domestic violence occurs when a person in an intimate relationship or marriage dominates and controls the other. It knows no discrimination. It affects every age, gender, ethnic background, and income level.
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1 in 4Women who have experienced domestic violence in an intimate partner relationship
1 in 7Men who have experienced domestic violence in an intimate partner relationship
85%Of those abused are women
99%Of those impacted by domestic violence also experience financial abuse
#1Domestic violence is the leading reason women and children experience homelessness
30 to 60%Of perpetrators also abuse children in the household
The forms it takes
Abuse is not only what leaves a mark
Physical injury is the most visible form. The emotional and psychological consequences are just as severe. Abuse destroys self worth, leads to anxiety and depression, and makes a person feel helpless and alone.
Emotional and psychological
Behavior that results in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress.
Sexual
Any situation in which a person is forced to take part in unwanted, unsafe, or degrading sexual activity.
Coercive control
Fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation used to maintain control, often escalating from threats and verbal abuse to violence.
All of these are crimes. Police have the power and the authority to protect you.
Warning signs
What to watch for
People living with abuse often show some of the following. One sign on its own may mean nothing. Several together are worth paying attention to.
- Fear of their partner, watching what they say and do to avoid a blow-up
- Being belittled or put down by their partner
- Frequent injuries explained away as accidents
- Missing work, school, or social occasions without explanation
- Clothing that hides bruises or scars, such as long sleeves in summer or sunglasses indoors
- Isolation from family and friends
- Low self esteem
- Rarely going out in public without their partner
- Limited access to money or credit cards
- Depression, anxiety, and in some cases thoughts of suicide
If you suspect someone
Speak up. It may save a life.
Expressing your concern lets the person know that you care. Abusers are very good at what they do, and someone being abused needs help to get out. They may be battered, depressed, frightened, ashamed, and confused all at once.
Do
Express concern. Listen. Validate what they tell you. Offer help.
Do not
Judge, blame, pressure, give advice, or place conditions on your support.
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